Love Only Falls In Love With Itself

We cannot fall in love with an object or a person.

Such love is not love; it is a physiological attachment to transient appearance, not love. 

Here, we are falling in love with a dream.

Mistaking this material sensation of physiological attachment for love makes it into an object.

It confuses physiological security for love, only to find that such transience does not provide lasting security and to place undue pressure on it to provide what it cannot.

Love always falls in love with itself.

By its nature, love is limitless, eternal, and free, whereas psychological attachment is limited, transient, and dependent.

This is not to say that bodies do not experience some level of physiological attachment.

This is not to acknowledge that for nearly all bodies, their initial experience of love is confused with the physiological attachment that they have with their parents and their coding in relationships is heavily determined by these formative experiences of attachment.

However, it is to say that no matter how powerful the reality of this physiological attraction may be, the reality of our love remains infinitely more so.

At some point, the confusion between physiological attachment and love must be unravelled.

What is loved about the body you are looking at is the very aliveness that is the essence of its fleeting, energetic material form and its intelligence. 

The very same essence that is you.

This way, we can enjoy the free flow of love without bogging it down or confusing it with the confinement of psychological attachment.

Only when we understand can we genuinely respect and care for the bodies involved in a relationship.

We can feel that all the bodies in the relationship are equal children of love, not just the immediate body we associate ourselves with.

We are free to accommodate the inevitable changes in the bodies involved in relationships and are encouraged not to control their expression.

Love

Freyja