Welcoming The Sensational Child as an Appearance of Parental Beingness

To begin with, we experience ourselves as the presence of “parental” aware beingness, free from the “adolescent” mind’s belief that imposes the notion of being a limited, personal entity. From this starting point, we can welcome all that appears. We recognise that we are whole and complete as we are. We might say, “I am that I am as I am,” or use other phrases or actions that point to this wholeness.

Being thus, we experience the transparency of the sensations of the “child body” —which include not only the sensations of our immediate human form but also those of the entire universe. These sensations appear as apparent forms of our beingness, indistinguishable from and inseparable from us. We are free from the adolescent mind’s projection that they are separate, threatening obstacles to our limited being. Though they may arise, they no longer trigger any psychological meaning of threat. We welcome them with indifference, seeing them as appearances of our parental beingness. We understand them to collectively be our beautiful child, born of us and a beautiful expression of us. We love these appearances automatically, welcoming them into the safe wholeness of our beingness. Any lingering sense of contractedness naturally dissolves over time, much like a child’s fear dissolves in the reassuring embrace of a secure, strong, and courageously loving parent. As this happens, the contractedness may bridge to memories tied to it—memories that extend beyond our individual lives to the collective life of all humans as part of the story of identification. These thoughts may include even the collective story of masculine and feminine and other archetypal stories of identification. These thoughts are nothing to fear; they are buried aspects of our previous identification emerging into the light as part of the natural surrender of the belief in a separate self. They represent the great myth of humanity - the myth of “being a person in a world” that has propagated every corner of the human psyche until it has become the unquestioned blind belief for millions. We can call this the story of adolescence that is being dissolved by the realisation of the true adulthood of our beingness.

Conversely, if we fail to stand as the intrinsic wholeness of parental aware beingness and instead interpret our experience solely through the lens of the adolescent mind—which imposes the meaning of everything, including our being, as a limited, separate object—we experience the appearance of sensations as an unpleasant, resisted contractedness. This draws our attention as if it were a physical obstacle in our path. In this case, our thoughts turn to avoidance, suppression, or some form of unregulated emotional expression in an attempt to rid ourselves of this discomfort. Such thoughts may develop into habits or even addictions. We may feel a sense of lack or personal inadequacy, which limits our lives and focuses our attention on fear. We might even physically curl up in a defensive posture. This occurs because, acting as the adolescent mind, we are trying to maintain our safety, and this is the only strategy we know. While a therapist may help us reframe specific limiting thoughts or use hypnosis to visualise a positive life momentarily, the ultimate solution lies in being open-minded, understanding, and experiencing that the aware beingness of our true nature is the source of all that appears. As we rest in this awareness, the perception of separateness at the heart of the problem dissolves, and we can embrace all apparent sensations intimately and with love, just as a parent welcomes a child.

There are not two forms of sensation—transparent or contracted. The difference lies solely in whether we are knowingly present as undefinable, unlimited aware beingness or viewing life exclusively through the limiting lens of the adolescent mind. In short, are we living life as the flow of the life-affirming parental beingness, the defensive, neurotic emotional adolescent, or even the deeply contracted physicality of the child? As we rest in this moment, we can discern how our energy feels in this regard. I suggest these three possibilities carry with them markers that draw our attention. As the parental beingness, our attention is broad, and sensations are transparent and flowing, and we are fearless with no sense of lack. As the neurotic adolescent, there is emotional contraction in the torso often. As the paralysed child, there is a felt sense of contraction in the base of the body and into the very earth on which it stands.

Love,

Freyja